5 Ways Not To Let Difficult People Ruin Your Day

 

So I wake up early and happy everyday...well almost everyday. There I was sitting amidst my plants sipping my lemon tea when that difficult person came and commented on something that wasn't done the right way, when it wasn't my job to do that in the first place. My perfect morning moments were gone and the lemon tea indeed left a sour taste in my mouth. You know what I mean, right! You've been through it too at some point. 

I sat down that day with my journal and thought hard about how I can avoid feeling low when something or someone around me is being negative. I have come with these 5 tried and tested mind tricks (if we can call them that). Think about it and implement it. I guarantee, you'll have more happier days than usual. 

Stop being a friend to Misery

That's right. Misery loves company. The more you think about it/him/her/them, the more misery is going to hang around you. The initial venting out if fine and even necessary sometimes, but get rid of it as soon as possible. Pick yourself up and indulge in something you really enjoy. I know it is easier said than done. It took me most of the morning to get rid of that misery before I finally started working on my blog and that automatically bought me to my happy place. So, don't be company to misery. Stop thinking about it. 

Stop daydreaming about how things can get worse

I would play out the scenarios in my mind, recite what I would say to that person and go through an all-out imaginary battle. The aftermath would leave me feeling fueled with anger and even more irritated. My attitude spiraled into an abyss of bitterness and ire. I had to understand that what was said has already been said, nothing beyond that is going to happen, till I allow it to. It is all in my head and that is what brings on more agitation and misery. Stop thinking of scenarios where things could've been one way or the other. 

Find reasons to be thankful for that person

Don't hate me for this...but it actually helps. If you can find things to be thankful for that person being in your life, life would be less irritating. When you redirect your mind towards the positives, it is difficult to think negatively about that person. Negative and positive thoughts cannot co-exist. Positivity always perpetuates positivity. So think hard why that person is also important in your life. 

Boundaries are good

Do you find yourself going the extra mile for someone, doing something that is actually not natural to you. Well, you won't be able to do that forever. The other natural side of you will eventually come out. This is not to say that we shouldn't develop and improve ourselves; but set some boundaries. There's only that much we can alter ourselves before just bursting out of control. 

If you're always irritated, consider that the difficult person could just be you.

Something to reflect upon, it isn't after all, all bad out there. Self-reflection is equally important when dealing with difficult people. 

Tell me what you think about this. What do you think can be done more to have more peace, love and tranquility around us?